There are many history books listing the amount of women who have helped build and shape professionals, presidents, generals, rock stars, executives, entrepreneurs, and beyond in their partners. Maybe some of us know a few of these women in our grandmothers, mother’s, and siblings.
It should come as no surprise to any of us that women have this finesse to them. They are able to sculpt men into more than they imagined by giving them love, guidance, structure, and most of all confidence. It is said that women (not all of course) have this innate nurturing nature. We want to see those we love flourish and grow. We want to uplift them. We have this gift of seeing what others don’t see in themselves and lovingly, and sometimes when needed, ruthlessly, pointing it out. When a mature woman loves, she does so selflessly. (This is true of men as well.)
This particular topic has been on my mind for years now. It has been brought to my attention in several of my wine conversations with girlfriends, many crying “after the break up calls,” and so forth.
So how is it that these men that we build up seem to forget so quickly? We invest in their confidence, give them their swag, and they forget as swift as they do last week’s stats that they just had down packed.
I’m trying to figure out if it’s them or us? Do we women get insecure about the monsters we create? Or is it the men whose egos get too big to just be stroked by one person? Did women spend too much time trying to uplift their men’s careers that they half way invest in their own?
Whether these men admit it aloud or not, they know who was there at the beginning when few were looking their way. In their moments of silence I hope that they can remember that one female. Whether she broke his heart and gave him motivation, or planted the seeds he gets watered by everyone else now, he won’t forget.
Give these women credit. For they do more work than the blind eye can see. They give more love than asked for. There’s a method to their madness. There’s a raw truth in her intuition. These are not the women that men want to be missing.
I just wanted to give each and every one of you all a round of applause. Stand up and bow, then walk away smiling, knowing you can create anything of YOURSELVES.