High Heels & High Standards

THIS IS A PUBIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT.

I know it's nice to have a 'bad chick,' but at the end of the day men should be preparing for a GOOD WOMAN.

It's easy to fall for looks or 'swag' but a lot of these young women are lost, needing reinforcement for their looks but rarely working on their insides. 

Does she have 'high standards to match her high heels'? No wait, SURPASS them?

What's happened it that there are so many easy women that when a GOOD WOMAN comes around, men aren't properly prepared to know how to treat her. 

Proclaiming that she's crazy just because SHE HAS STANDARDS.

A GOOD WOMAN won't put up with the mess fellas, and a VAIN WOMAN won't be there for the long haul. 

A GOOD WOMAN has faith in more than her fashion sense. She will hold you down through thick and thin but will also tell you to 'tighten up'!

Why settle for a woman with minimal standards ? ? ?

(((Only because I care for my young men and women. I keep it authentic.))))))

"The Beautiful Struggle": Jessenia 'Muzik' Arias



Jessenia “Muzik” Arias is known within the adoptee community as “The Voice of The Adoptees.” Through her heart centered testimonies on her blog Which Way Is Home? featuring authentic feelings of what it is like to be an adoptee, she encourages thought and reflection within each of us.

What started out as a way for her to share her feelings, turned into a portal of hope for the adoptee community and beyond. She has become the child of many and the sister of more.

This is a woman who has endured more than most can fathom in her short life and has managed to turn it all into victory. She encourages all to PUSH, to pray and to not give up our dreams. She never gave up on hers. No matter the rejection, the abandonement, the abuse, the lies, the “no’s”; she did it. And this is only the beginning.

Muzik is “The Beautiful Struggle”.

But the thing is, so are you! You have the ability to push through any obstacle. It’s not easy, but succeeding never is. The struggle is beautiful because the struggle is yours but so are the triumphs. P.U.S.H.

Find out more about her journey HERE
Follow her on twitter @iamadoted HERE
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Date ALONE ???

Maybe this whole notion of being alone is natural to me since I was an only child. Do you know that there’s actually adults who fear being anywhere, but the bathroom, alone?  

They especially fear being seen in public alone, like say going to the movies, dinner or park. They think that gives them entitlement to 'creeper status' or gets them put in the same category as an elder alone that’s lost their spouse.

When we see an elderly person alone its actually quite sad if one has any type of heart. Some of us tend to associate ourselves in these positions and say “no, you’ve got to be a sad person to attempt to have fun (or fill in the blank) alone.”

I profoundly and boldly say: when you know and love yourself, YOU are your best company.

You see this world is so cluttered with mess, and texts, and facebook, and twitter, and boyfriends, and crazy girlfriends, fake people, work, bills, and a bunch of other things other than us.

How can one hear his or her own voice of reason clearly or talk to God when there’s so much noise? How can we truly appreciate the little things like our breath and absolutely invest our hearts in the moment? 

Because all we have is right now.

The people that don’t like to be alone many times get grumpy when there’s no company, feeling neglected by others when the truth is they’ve neglected themselves and their personal issues for so long that they just don’t know how to deal with them alone or without the validation and support of other worldly people.

I personally love those “Sunday mornings of life,” as India Arie calls them. Those moments to reflect and realize what I have to offer to this world and how important it is to put INVEST in me an equal balance for what I put OUT.

The truth of the matter is, the more time we don’t sit and let everything marinate; the harder it will be to deal with the future. Although it seems that the ones who are always in a hurry and anxious not to miss anything the crowd is doing are 'winning', they’ll eventually run into stagnation if they don’t take that time alone.

If it’s been a while since you took yourself on a date, I strongly advise you to do so. Turn off your phone and get lost. Stop at the cool little ice cream shop you look at every time you drive by. Go jogging in that park full of nature. Visit that museum that you cannot convince any of your lame friends to go to. Purchase a book and go into outer space.

It’s “sexy season” as my friend Stephanie Rosen likes to say. I’ll interpret that as, it’s time to take care of YOU!   

Daily Luminary Direction 10/16/11 THINK

"Yo, activism, attackin' the system, the blacks and latins in prison Numbers of prison they victim lackin' in the vision... Sh- - and all they got is rappin to listen to..." - Talib Kweli

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